I’ve never felt the need to rush into motherhood, but at the same time, have always been curious as to what it would be like to be pregnant.
Don’t get me wrong, I’ve always, ALWAYS wanted a little person of my own… but it was always a case of “some day”.
So, when Stephen and I chatted about starting a little family of our own at the beginning of 2014, and felt we were ready to do so after many happy, stable years together, we took the leap in April and were pregnant by mid October, 6 months later.
People always try to warn you about what to expect once you find out you’re pregnant, but nothing can really fully prepare you. You really do need to just close your eyes and jump right in with the knowledge that what will be one persons experience could very well be totally opposite to what you’re about to experience, and that’s okay.
But in my case, this point brings me specifically to the one thing that has plagued my thoughts from day 1 of my pregnancy;
- Never feel guilty for falling pregnant after only trying for a short time
It took us only 6 months of trying to be blessed with a positive pregnancy test, and after hearing more and more friends and acquaintances going through long periods of trying to fall pregnant, I began to feel guilty about how easy it was for us.
But no matter how long it took you to fall pregnant, it really is all in the Lord’s timing. If it took you a year, maybe even two, to fall pregnant, the timing will always be when it’s right for you to have a little human being enter your life.
Don’t be discouraged.
- Learn to love your body before, during and after
Comparison is always a recipe for disaster, no matter where or how you apply it in your life.
In this case, comparing your pre-pregnancy body to your pregnant body/state.
For me, fitness and exercise has always been a secret love of mine (nevermind that my diet is always terrible, haha!).
In my case, because pregnancy has slowed me down exercise wise, I desperately miss training hard at gym and often compare what I could do pre-pregnancy versus being pregnant now.
But the key is to be thankful if you can face gym at all during pregnancy!
And that’s what I’ve kept in the front of my mind as I’ve been able to train throughout my whole pregnancy – a heart of gratitude because my body is still strong and has managed to keep going WHILE growing a little human being.
This makes me happy.
- Don’t sweat the small stuff
For me, life is all about mindset.
When we wake up each morning, we all have the equal choice of deciding whether you’re going to face that day with a smile and a happy heart, or if you’re going to face the world with a grimace and complain your way through it.
Mine is always the former. No matter what. Regardless of how I’m feeling about anything.
Now, when it comes to pregnancy, raging hormones don’t always play along with the idea of striving for a happy disposition each morning, but you can still try your best, pregnant or not.
Here are what I struggled with the most while being pregnant:
Problem: Clothing that no longer fits (yes, especially those pretty dresses and cute strappy tops)
Solution: So what? In a couple of months they will fit again and it will feel like you have a brand new closet again! Score!Problem: Your social circle seems to diminish before your eyes – drastically
Solution: Be your own company until you can get out there again. Most people wont be able to identify with you and your pregnant state right now, and that’s okay. Make new friends who can identify with you, or be happy in your own company and create a world around you that makes you happy.
Problem: People and their insensitive comments about your appearance.
Solution: Toughen up – it’s going to happen. The best thing you can do is to laugh it off and understand that, if they meant it to hurt you, that’s on them. If they meant it as a joke or innocent comment, then learn to brush it off and move on.
These are applicable in every day life, anyway. It’s all part of being an adult.
There are so many other things I could go on about, but ain’t nobody got time fo’ dat!
My biggest lesson over the last 37 weeks of pregnancy is two-fold; always be grateful for the tiniest of things that go right, and also don’t be so hard on yourself if they don’t go the way you had planned.
Growing a human being isn’t easy, both physically and emotionally, but I’ve heard that it’s worth it and I can’t wait to find out just how worth it it’s going to be.
Life is an adventure and it’s always important to do everything with a happy heart and positive mindset.
Those are the keys to a happy life.